Bisexuality & the Erotic

For bisexual people, erotic fantasy holds a unique and powerful space. It is a realm where desire flows freely, unconfined by gender or expectation. In a world that often insists on either/or, bisexuality says both—and more. And in fantasy, that radical fluidity can be celebrated without shame or explanation. As June Jordan once wrote, “I am not wrong: Wrong is not my name. My name is my own, my own, my own.” For many bisexual people, fantasy is the first place they can claim that name and all the desires it holds.

Bisexuality is often misunderstood or erased. Mainstream culture tends to reduce it to confusion, promiscuity, or a phase. Erotic fantasy pushes back against those lies. It allows the bisexual imagination to take full shape: to long for a woman’s lips and a man’s hands; to be seduced by voices, not genitals; to crave affection and submission, dominance and devotion, regardless of gender. “To be bi is to move through desire like a river,” says Gabrielle Bellot, “cutting paths that don’t always make sense to those standing still.”

Erotic fantasy becomes especially important for bisexual people navigating internal or external shame. Many grow up told their feelings are “too much” or “not real.” Fantasy offers a safe harbor—a space where the fullness of bisexual desire is not only allowed but exalted. As Carrie Brownstein said, “Sexuality is not black and white; it’s a spectrum. There’s a lot of gray in between.” In fantasy, that gray becomes gold.

More than indulgence, erotic fantasy is often an act of resilience. Bisexual people are often judged not only by heterosexual society but also within queer spaces. Some feel they must “prove” their queerness or pick a side. Fantasy, however, lets them reclaim power on their own terms. In the words of Roxane Gay, “I am not tragic. I am not damaged. I am a survivor.” Through fantasy, bisexual people write themselves as central, desired, sovereign—not erased or sidelined.

Finally, erotic fantasy builds community. From steamy fanfiction to queer erotic novels, bisexual people find themselves in stories where attraction is expansive, shifting, and liberating. These shared fantasies become maps—ways to say, You are not alone in what you want. As Virginia Woolf put it, “The mind is the most erotic organ.” For bisexual people, that mind may desire many bodies, many stories, many truths—and fantasy gives them room to desire it all.